Sis, He caN’t get it …in help!

11 Apr Sis, He caN’t get it …in help!

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I’m seeing a 30-year-old man that claims he has had sex before but it just seems he doesn’t have much experience. We’ve tried sex a total of 3-4 times and his penis goes soft before we can get it in my vagina for actual intercourse. We do hand play/hand jobs often. We can spend a whole weekend in bed together kissing, touching, and loving on each other. His penis gets hard during that time and when I’m using my hand, he will ejaculate 3-4 or more times in one day by giving a hand job. When it comes to intercourse he makes it seem as if I must be immediately ready to go as soon as it gets hard with no hesitation, foreplay, or talking because if there is a lapse in time or if we talk too much, it goes soft. He says when we decide that we are going to have sex (by asking the question, do you want to have sex and both responding yes) we have to just go for it. He also says talking is a distraction even when we are talking about what’s happening at the moment. We were able to get to actual intercourse once and it was going good but we had to stop due to my monthly cycle coming on during. I was bummed because it was finally happening and then we had to stop. It seems his body is much more for the hand job but he does seem very attracted to me and it seems like he wants to have intercourse but can’t get his penis to cooperate. Any advice on what might cause this or what I can do to make it happen again without it going soft. I really want to have sex and it seems he does but sometimes I question whether he wants to since it goes soft when it comes to the actual act of int

Advice from @sexualessentials :
To be clear I don’t know this man I think we can agree that he is very used to his hand. It seems that the use of his hand has him trying to get his other sexual encounters to simulate his self sex practice. Quiet and straight to the point is most likely how he has the mood during his self sex practices. When we get so used to one particular thing sometimes our body starts getting used to or starts developing preferences. Is he not attracted to you? Well this would be a hell of a waste of time for what if he wasn’t, like why go through all this if he didn’t want you? Ultimately only he can verbally reassure you so if you need that then ask for it, ask straight up are you attracted, but also let him know you just wanted to make sure because you want to keep trying (if you want to that is). Lastly I’m going to suggest you all try out a cock ring. Some cock rings are annoying but if you check out my Penis Sex Toysvideo on Patreon you’ll see i go over a variety of male toys that can either simulate self sex but also like the cock ring trap the blood in the shaft to keep the dick harder for way longer! Hope this helps xoxo