Threesomes..to 3 or not to 3 that is the Question

The person most likely asking this question is in a relationship of some sort, I won’t get into the specifics of girlfriend/boyfriend compared to marriage I’ll just say in a relationship. Somehow someway one of the parties has brought up the inevitable threesome discussion and usually the first worry is do I want to share? Valid. Valid as fuck for many reasons. I encourage people to discuss this in pieces. People assume that because someone wants to have a threesome it automatically means something bad, the sex is bad, they aren’t satisfied, they watch too much porn. Honestly some of those things could be true but that’s the point of discussing it. I’m not going to do the hard work of weeding out the pigs who don’t even deserve a threesome, that’s your job. If they can’t commit to the relationship guidelines you all already have, they only perk up about getting another person in the bed, they call you petty for thinking it through? Those people don’t even deserve this convo.

The why is important though, because despite how porn makes it look Threesomes are hard fucking work. Let’s be honest, if you can’t handle one dick how you gone handle two tapping out 3 minutes into this thing that took you 3 years to get him on board with. If you can’t make her cum why we adding more to your plate sir? We can’t be handing out basic dick to multiple people, now you embarrassing her in front of company and shit. Threesomes should be about intensifying something and hopefully that something is pleasure. Even when another woman is added it’s not always the man who wanted to add them sometimes it’s the woman. Some men find this offensive but to that I say do NOT condemn your partner for sharing their most intimate fantasies. Do you have to say yes? Hell naw but you shouldn’t condemn and belittle or judge because from that point on they will close you out and you create an avenue for secrets. Women sometimes want another woman because even those who don’t want to admit it can find sensualness arousing. Women have this aura and naturally we are more sensual than men and as a woman sometimes we yearn for more sensualness. For those women who have touched another woman in any way you can probably admit that she just knew what to do, how hard to kiss back or even what to say that sometimes made you feel more connected with her right away. Women are beautiful and we see it probably quicker than you all do.

Now how quickly a woman can turn on you when the male cosigns too easily or seems to anxious to say yea Get Her! If you’re discussing threesomes I feel that the WHY and the JEALOUSY need to be dealt with at the door. If the why is something that you agree with then leave it at that, don’t flip flop. If someone says it’s just a fantasy I want to see how it feels if you say ok I understand when you all dig deeper into the conversation you can’t get mad when they were already honest. You either accept their honesty or not, you accepting and hearing them is not saying YES let’s do this. Jealousy is a big one, do you invite someone else into your bedroom. I’m going to be honest, if your partner would leave you for a threesome they were gone before that 3rdperson was even thought of and YOU missed the signs. Pussy is pussy and unless you just trash as fuck it’s not that big of a difference to make someone drop your shit to go get to know someone else. Jealousy is mostly surrounded around will I be sick if I se my partner do something else with someone, sometimes people say yes to threesomes without considering what it is that you’re going to see. What if someone makes your partner cum harder than usual? What if the 3rdperson says it’s the best sex they’ve ever had? Are you ready to flip flop and be mad again?

Understand that during threesomes or any type of sexual fantasy feelings are heightened, so yes it’s going to be amazing because 1. The person is NEW. That’s natural body reaction if yall been fucking for years even if the 3rdperson dog ass ugly the body still recognizes that it’s the unknown and the body will respond. 2. It’s multiple forms of stimulation if yall doing it right and the body will be aroused 3. You should WANT your partner to feel pleasure

I’ll put a pin there, and say AGAIN: YOU SHOULD WANT YOUR PARTNER TO FEEL PLEASURE.

If you’re upset at your partner experiencing pleasure then close your phone or your laptop and scratch threesomes of the list because it’s not going to happen. Anything sexual that you decide to do in a relationship should be about pleasure; personally sharing a life is about sharing experiences and pleasures together. If you all choose to do anything make sure you’re ok with the pleasure that comes with it. For ex: You ask your man can you eat his ass because you’ve never tried it. Don’t call that man gay for moaning and it feeling good. If you try things out sexually it should be for the pleasure derived from the action. If you aren’t comfortable with the pleasure possibility then DON’T DO IT DAMNIT!

Now of course someone is reading this and they don’t know HOW to express WHY they want to have a threesome, for some it’s the things we are embarrassed to say so I’ll plant an idea and then we’ll move on to the next point. Maybe your girl wants to have a guest woman because inside she is aroused by women, she has wondered do women eat women better, I mean we have the same anatomy, and nipples and breasts are just so sexy. To suck on a beautiful woman and not have to be confined to behind the screen while watching porn. To be able to kiss a woman and still know that I can fuck my man afterwards? To see my man’s face as he watches me dive into my unknown and enjoy the pleasure she gives me. I never get to actually see my man in action but the idea of watching him bring another woman to orgasm and know FUCK he’s mine and he does that shit right, wow I didn’t realize how sexy he looks while fucking… Damn. But ladies understand how he may be thinking, he may want a guest woman because what’s more beautiful than one woman? Two. The idea of watching my girl either devour another woman or be devoured, they’re just so sensual. To show off for my girl and let her watch me show off for her knowing damn well she gets to take me home after this. To share this with her, I can tell her anything.

I’m not saying everyone thinks like this but I am saying that everybody is not using threesomes as a way to secretly cheat. For some its an experience to share together that puts both of you all in an area of higher ecstasy and pleasure, when done correctly. So decide, should you have a threesome? Now moving on…

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